{"id":42131,"date":"2020-09-08T14:59:52","date_gmt":"2020-09-08T18:59:52","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blogs.studentlife.utoronto.ca\/lifeatuoft\/?p=42131"},"modified":"2020-09-08T14:59:52","modified_gmt":"2020-09-08T18:59:52","slug":"how-to-deal-with-disappointment","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blogs.studentlife.utoronto.ca\/lifeatuoft\/2020\/09\/08\/how-to-deal-with-disappointment\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Deal with Disappointment"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

This post is dedicated to dealing with disappointment. As my fourth year at university is about to begin I\u2019ve had to learn to accept that I might not see many familiar faces in the upcoming semesters. Even during the summer I had hope that even though we are living through a pandemic most of my friends would be returning to Toronto for our final year of studies. The realization that many would not be returning has made me face feelings of disappointment, and I\u2019m sure a lot of others are experiencing the same thing. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

This post can also be applied to other moments of disappointment in life, such as getting a lower grade than expected, but right now missing seeing friends in person has really been getting me down. Here\u2019s some of my tips on how to deal with this: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Allow time to process<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I try to remind myself that time changes everything, in a few weeks this may be irrelevant, or perhaps a few years. Either way I know I will find something else fulfilling, something that is the right path for me. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I don't jump into a new task right away and instead give myself time to rest i.e. something that is a good distraction. For instance, if I'm upset about a bad grade I let myself take a rest day, maybe watch a film or something else relaxing. Just because the end result didn\u2019t pay off doesn\u2019t mean that I didn\u2019t put in a significant amount of work. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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art is my favourite relaxing activity<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Focus on the bigger picture<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Some things just aren\u2019t meant to be, but that doesn\u2019t mean new opportunities won\u2019t arise in the future. There's still so many things to look forward to! I make lists of what I want to accomplish or what I am looking forward. Looking on the bright side can do wonders. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Write out those feelings<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are good at wanting things to be over. We want to move forward, however I know it's important to allow myself to feel disappointed even if I want to forget about it. Writing out and understanding why I'm feeling disappointed helps me come to terms with my feelings and could help prevent this in the future. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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my journal<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Make a plan for the future<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is absolutely no way to avoid disappointment in life, but there are ways to plan around it and be prepared to deal with it. This year has been difficult to predict, but I know that if I\u2019d thought a bit more rationally about the likelihood of everything going back to normal by September I wouldn\u2019t be feeling the disappointment so strongly. Knowing what makes me feel better when I'm disappointed will help me in the future too. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

At the moment it may seem like the disappointment will last forever and that there\u2019s nothing I can do, but the truth is those feelings will<\/em> change with time, and it will<\/em> get better soon. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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