{"id":38398,"date":"2019-06-24T08:02:17","date_gmt":"2019-06-24T12:02:17","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blogs.studentlife.utoronto.ca\/lifeatuoft\/?p=38398"},"modified":"2019-06-21T08:02:27","modified_gmt":"2019-06-21T12:02:27","slug":"4000-km-from-home-missing-my-parents-at-university","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blogs.studentlife.utoronto.ca\/lifeatuoft\/2019\/06\/24\/4000-km-from-home-missing-my-parents-at-university\/","title":{"rendered":"4000 km From Home: Missing My Parents at University"},"content":{"rendered":"Almost two years ago, I jumped on a plane and flew from Vancouver to Toronto. Though I\u2019ve been back since, a lot has changed. Ever since then, my sense of home has blurred from Vancouver to Toronto, and not seeing my parents for months-on-end has become the norm.\u00a0<\/span>\r\n\r\nNow that it\u2019s been a couple years, I don\u2019t miss my parents much. But there definitely were moments when I did. Homesickness is real, and it took me a little bit of time to figure out what I needed to do to not miss my parents that <\/i>much. Here\u2019s what I\u2019ve learned.\r\n
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  1. Routines are key\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><\/li>\r\n<\/ol>\r\nFor me, figuring out routines was key to navigating my relationship with my parents. To my surprise, I actually found it more difficult to talk to my parents every couple of days. I was stressed out and cranky, and it felt like I still really needed their support. Soon I realized that talking to my parents about every ten days felt better. This allowed me to stay in touch, but also spend enough time alone to feel fully independent.\u00a0<\/span>\r\n\r\n\"\"<\/a>\r\n\r\n\u00a0<\/span>2) \u00a0Getting away feels great<\/strong>\r\n\r\nOne of the things that frustrated me most was not being able to visit my parents for a weekend if I needed to. All my other friends could take a train or bus to see their parents, but that simply wasn\u2019t an option for me.\r\n\r\nThings got easier when I realized that even though I couldn\u2019t visit my parents, I could still get out of the city. Thankfully, I have some family in Ontario who I really enjoy visiting if I need time away from the city or school. Tagging along with my friends when they visit their parents is also a great option\u2014 though I don\u2019t get one-on-one time with my parents, I still get to take some time away from school if I need it.\u00a0<\/span>\r\n\r\n\"A<\/a>\r\n\r\n3) It's okay to be alone<\/strong>\u00a0 \u00a0<\/span>\r\n\r\nFor me, realizing why<\/em> I felt homesick was key. Though I love spending time with my parents, I also just enjoyed the security of having someone else look after me. One of the moments I felt most homesick was when I spilled tea on my computer and broke it in first year university (ughh\u2026). In that moment, I felt so helpless and alone, and really wanted my parents to just fix the situation.\u00a0<\/span>\r\n\r\nThe longer I\u2019ve spent away from them, the more I\u2019ve realized that I can<\/em> look after myself. I\u2019ve faced countless problems, and solved them just as well as my parents could have. Now that I\u2019m more confident being alone, missing my parents is much less of a factor. And hey, I always have my cat Dave to hold my hand if I really need it!\u00a0<\/span>\r\n\r\n\"A<\/a>\r\n\r\nFor me, leaving my parents was super scary. But, it was also a great opportunity for me to grow, and I\u2019m super happy I went through the process. Good luck everyone!","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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