{"id":28952,"date":"2016-09-22T12:54:25","date_gmt":"2016-09-22T16:54:25","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blogs.studentlife.utoronto.ca\/lifeatuoft\/?p=28952"},"modified":"2016-11-21T19:20:48","modified_gmt":"2016-11-22T00:20:48","slug":"lessons-in-objects","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blogs.studentlife.utoronto.ca\/lifeatuoft\/2016\/09\/22\/lessons-in-objects\/","title":{"rendered":"Lessons in Objects"},"content":{"rendered":"\""Inside<\/a>\r\n\r\nIt\u2019s tough to feel confident when you\u2019ve had setbacks. Very few of us can immediately bounce back after some kind of a failure without feeling burned for a little while.\r\n\r\nFor me, returning to school after a few years away proved to be a bigger challenge than I had thought it would be. I bit off more than I can chew in an attempt to make up for lost time and ended up paying the price for it\u2014academically, mentally, physically.\r\n\r\nBut what good is it wallowing in past failures? Starting this school year as a full-time student again, I try to keep in mind the things that I learned from my disappointments and the mindset and new habits I want to try to stick to going forward. Here, I present some of the \u201ctokens\u201d of my learned lessons.\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n
\"Soft<\/a>
My dirty ballet slippers.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\r\n\r\nI thought I had neglected a lot of activities and hobbies that I loved because I had lost interest in them. One of those hobbies was ballet. If I really loved ballet still, why couldn\u2019t I find the motivation to go to class like I used to? Well as it turns out, when you\u2019re not at your best it\u2019s hard to find the motivation to do a lot<\/em> of things. So how do you find the motivation? You don\u2019t, really. You just do it. The motivation will come later (hopefully).<\/strong> Your habits can inform your mood just as your mood can inform your habits. It\u2019s not easy to do things when you don\u2019t feel<\/em> like doing them, but it\u2019s much easier to do it this way than to try and \u201cshut off\u201d an emotion.\r\n\r\n
\""Inside<\/a>
\"Inside Out\": where your emotions have emotions<\/figcaption><\/figure>\r\n\r\nThese \"Inside Out\" plushies were a gift from my brother and they currently sit right by my desk. They\u2019re a good reminder for me of the importance of taking stock of my emotions before I fall into a downward spiral of having emotions about why I shouldn\u2019t have emotions<\/strong> (also, I just like looking at them because they\u2019re adorable!). Sometimes, the negative (or even positive) associations of certain feelings can be more damaging than the actual emotions themselves. I\u2019ve found that just acknowledging that I\u2019m feeling depressed or angry, instead of feeling guilty that I\u2019m depressed or being annoyed that I\u2019m angry (or being annoyed that I feel guilty about being angry!), can help me channel strong feelings into more productive energy.\r\n\r\n
\"Three<\/a>
This is maybe 1\/30th of my total notebook collection.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\r\n\r\nAnd speaking of emotions\u2026 I\u2019ve always enjoyed writing, but it wasn\u2019t until last year that I really understood the value of writing as a kind of meditation. That is, to focus on the process of the writing itself and not on the words that are coming out. Why was this so important to me during my time of distress? I realised that writing had become a refuge of sorts<\/strong>. It was nice to find a (mental) place where I could take a (figurative) dump and let go of\u00a0anything I didn\u2019t want to hold on to. Or even to let go of things I did want to hold on to. Either way, it was nice to write in a way wherein you're not concerned if any of it will actually make sense afterwards.\r\n\r\n
\"Two<\/a>
I\u2019m not an engineering student, but these are a few of the things I received during my time volunteering with Engineering Outreach.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\r\n\r\nOne of the best things you can do to get out of your own head is to focus outwardly<\/strong>. Or more specifically, to focus on other people. I think pursuing any goal or purpose outside of yourself is great to distract you from your own thoughts. And since my thoughts include a lot of self-doubt and negative chatter it\u2019s great if that \u201coutward purpose\u201d involves me being in service of others. At the beginning, I volunteered purely as a way to distract myself, but it\u2019s been so much more than that. (Plus, who knew I was really passionate about high school STEM education!)\r\n\r\n
\r\n\r\nIn the end, it\u2019s hard to change habits and mindsets. But having physical reminders of some of these lessons makes them just that much more tangible to me.","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"\""Inside<\/a>\r\n\r\nIt\u2019s tough to feel confident when you\u2019ve had setbacks. Very few of us can immediately bounce back after some kind of a failure without feeling burned for a little while.\r\n\r\nFor me, returning to school after a few years away proved to be a bigger challenge than I had thought it would be. I bit off more than I can chew in an attempt to make up for lost time and ended up paying the price for it\u2014academically, mentally, physically.\r\n\r\nBut what good is it wallowing in past failures? Starting this school year as a full-time student again, I try to keep in mind the things that I learned from my disappointments and the mindset and new habits I want to try to stick to going forward. Here, I present some of the \u201ctokens\u201d of my learned lessons.\r\n\r\n
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