University Life and the Art of Living

Lately, my facebook feed has been stacked with friends’ and acquaintances’ reposts of news articles talking about the most-profitable undergraduate majors. Typically, the people posting these articles tend to be in one of the top 10 “employable” majors – pure coincidence! ;) Other articles I have come across speak about the “higher education bubble” – a conjecture that essentially, the commodity of an undergraduate education is being devalued by the disproportionately high number of people holding or pursuing such a thing. Whether or not this is true is another discussion for another day. What really concerns me is that when we sprint through our degrees with dollar-signs in our eyes, I’m quite sure that we’re missing the point.

I am certainly prepared to accept that for social organization to work, we each need to have something to offer to society in order to rightfully receive something in return. As adults, we can no longer seek out high-school guidance counsellors to hold our hands and tell us exactly what to do next – university is a place of intense freedom, where we must make rational decisions based on our aspirations and goals. We need to take ownership of our education, by ensuring that the courses we take and the experiences that we have will give us more to contribute to the aspects of society to which we wish to belong. My friend with a passion for sociology eventually realized that in order to make meaning out of his education, he’d have to overcome his fear of statistics. Having skills in mathematics, economics, and expository writing have certainly never hurt anyone in their post-degree job search.

All of these things said, it makes me nervous to see first (or second, or third…) year students registering only for courses in a specific field because they view it as the de facto means to meaningful employment. Even as someone who lives in the lab and the library, it is disappointing to see friends (or to look back upon my earlier self) refusing to get involved on campus because it doesn’t count for marks, or racing through courses in a mad dash toward efficient memorization, without taking a moment to place what has been learned in the context of the world. After all, what is the point in learning something if it isn’t made meaningful and relevant in some way? Furthermore, are not the ways in which our educations fundamentally change us what makes us truly valuable both to employers, as well as one another?

The value of learning is often hidden in unexpected places. In my massive Convocation Hall-sized first-year ecology course, I discovered an appreciation for the intricate, deliberate beauty of nature that has since brought me to tears at the peripheries of forests. In a positive psychology course, I built a meditation practice that has pervaded through my conscious existence and changed the angle at which I look at my own thoughts in the 16 months that I’ve maintained it. Learning a second language allowed me to abstract my thinking away from words. Mathematics and logic gave me the powerful tool of formalization and argumentation in distantly related fields.

In my early years at U of T, I could never have predicted the things that awaited me here. I just had to put my faith in the pursuit of knowledge and the value of trying to expand my world into the sometimes dark corners of cultures and equations and philosophies that I might at first have been quick to judge and slow to understand. As we march through the last month of first semester, I encourage you to ask yourself what, from each course, you might be able to carry forward with you. If you weren’t preparing for the MCAT, or trying to make Dean’s List, what have you learned that can change the way you live your life? Which hidden worlds has your education opened up to you?

I imagine myself, this year or years from now, being perhaps interviewed by a grad school admissions committee, or a research group, or simply being in discussion with some fascinating person I’ve happened to meet as a result of circumstance. In these moments, the things I’ve memorized fall away, but the things I’ve truly learned will shape the way these people and I know each other and make decisions and interact with the world. In fact, these things have already begun to emerge in my life faster and more intensely than before, and this isn’t a “bubble” that can burst and fade away. There are dimensions of ethics to love and food. There are subtleties in ways of living that I didn’t know existed. So I guess, our time here gives us a chance to decide what our values are, and how to live deliberately. To know this is perhaps the finish line we might best cast our eyes toward. To those of us still too fresh to this place to find that, my advice is simple: try new things and ask yourself what they mean. We’ll never have more time and opportunity for it than now.

- Jennifer

A Lesson in Asking for Extensions

This is my back-up post for lifeatuoft, written during the honeymoon phase of the school year (September) when I am still madly in love with my professors, schoolwork and the predictable routine of university life. I wrote this post back in the fall, predetermining the fact that by the end of November, when tests, projects, presentations and essays are all due at the same time, my relationship with school may be on the rocks. About midway through the academic year (right now!), I’m fantasizing about a much needed break from U of T and won’t want to contribute to lifeatuoft at all. In fact, the last thing I want to do after a hard day of work is come home and have to dedicate more time and attention to you, school. Everything is too demanding. Too stressful. I thought it would be different. I love it. I hate it. I want to leave it. It’s not U (of T), it’s me.

Although I can’t accurately predict what my state of mind is today (this was written in September, after all), I am most likely dreaming of a professor suddenly granting my entire class an extension. This sympathetic gesture has actually occurred on rare occasions. However, this isn’t the norm. In fact, one friend told me that she asked for an extension from a particularly popular and celebrated professor on campus because her mother was dying of cancer and he said NO, as he had a rule about not making any exceptions for deadlines, and that he had to stick to it, however, he said he was sorry to hear about her mother (I should also add that this total lack of empathy towards students struggling with serious personal problems is also rare).

I once took a Contemporary British Literature course with Professor Fenwick (pronounced with a silent w) and she made it very clear that getting an extension is possible, under very special circumstances. Very special.

It was the first day of class, when people still think they will write their essays weeks in advance of the due date, and Professor Fenwick came to the part of her introduction we are all familiar with regarding extensions. Clearly, giving one person an extension isn’t fair to the rest of the class. I think we would all agree with this point. However, she noted that she has granted extensions before, like when she was a teaching assistant many years ago and a student sent her a letter (pre-email) explaining why he had not submitted an assignment. The letter said:

“I regret I was unable to come to class on Monday with my essay because a horse fell on my step-father in North Bay.”

The fact that Professor Fenwick had never been to North Bay, combined with the incredibly random specificities and bizarre nature of the excuse, made her conclude that it must be true. And let’s face it,  so much better than hearing about a sudden doctor’s appointment/delay on the Sheppard subway/printer ran out of ink run-of-the-mill excuses. However, when another student said she would be missing a test because she was attending the Calgary Stampede, Professor Fenwick was less lenient but noted that she respected the student for telling the truth, instead of a far-fetched tale of tragedy and turmoil.

In any case, Professor Fenwick makes a good point about what students should do when they ask for extensions. “I’d always rather students were honest than that they invent excuses. I’d far rather hear that their grandmother is visiting from out of town and that they want to spend time with her than that they invent blatantly untrue, embarrassing excuses.”

Just remember, each professor approaches extensions differently. While some are merciful, others will flat out deny you of a few extra days or weeks to complete your assignment, so be aware and proceed with caution.

Some other tips when asking for an extension:

First, ask yourself, is this actually a valid excuse for an extension? Are you asking for this extensions because you were watching too much TV? Poor planning? Putting your social life before your schoolwork? Terrible time management skills is not a solid reason for an extension.

Don’t ask for an extension the night before in e-mail. Professors are aware that there is a weird sudden illness that university students are stricken with the night before something is due. This mysterious illness almost always results in a high number of requests for extensions on the eve of a due date.

Talk to your professor, in person if possible, to explain your situation. Putting a face to a name is good. If you go to every class and participate, I’m sure the professor will recognize who you are and hopefully see you have been present in the lectures instead of someone who has skipped classes and realizes they can’t hand in an assignment because they have no idea what is happening in class.

Be prepared to provide a doctor’s note if you are sick. This is common sense. While some professors will accept a poorly scrawled doctor’s note, the University of Toronto requests that students have their doctors fill out this Student Medical Certificate form to provide evidence of illness.

Try to get an extension on only one assignment. Unless you are seriously ill, getting extensions on numerous assignments is dangerous because it will just make you procrastinate more and stress you out when the time rolls around again to hand everything in again. Do you really want to be spending your winter break writing essays?

And just remember, you are making an impression on your professor whether you like it or not. If you haven’t had much interaction with your professor, you could possibly be remembered for getting an extension. Be a standout student in other ways. Students who volunteer to present first in class are usually remembered and marked on a slightly different scale because they cannot be compared to anyone else. Your professor might also have higher expectations now that you’ve been granted an extension.

I guess my main point is to avoid extensions and awkward, pleading conversations with professors at all costs!

Now back to my essay writing. Do I sound bitter? I promise I won’t be, once I’ve handed all of my assignments in on time.

Erin