By Asim Ashraf
Campus Groups Officer
Being a recent graduate from university and landing a full-time job, I began to think that I would no longer be able to spend a lot of time volunteering. As I quickly adapted to a new lifestyle of a job in a workplace, as opposed to the chaotic schedule of a student, I realized I dearly missed being involved in some way, shape or form in contributing to community.
When I sat down and thought of ways to get involved, I had to think of how much time I could commit, what area I would like to contribute too, would it compliment some of my own professional work, and is there something more attainable than raising money. I made a list and in reducing my options I came across the online searches and found a place that was really for me.
I am aiming to go into a field of counselling in higher education settings. I don’t really know at the moment what that means, but I want to exercise some skills I already have before I get into such a career. The best way to find out is to try something where I can practice my counselling, feedback and leadership skills. Future Possibilities for Kids was a great organization to do exactly this.
At Future Possibilities for Kids there is a program called Ready, Set, Goal! Children between ages of 9 to 11 years old are partnered with a coach, called a KidCoach, who are trained to develop the kid into completing a goal. The Goal of Contribution is designed by the kid to contribute something to their community and should not necessarily be about money. The KidCoach has the aim to instill leadership skills and self-confidence in the kid while the kid tries to accomplish their community-related goal. The program is free for kids to join, but the best part is kids develop a new perspective and habits that they’ll use for the rest of their lives.
Since October 2009, I was paired up with a kid. His name we’ll call just J. His application stood out for me because he reminded me so much of myself when I was younger: quiet, introverted, and friendly in a timid way. One thing I noticed in his application was that he knew exactly what he liked and disliked. He also had some goals that were down to earth, within his field of influence and things that he truly cared about.
After the KidCoach training, our weekly phone calls for many months and activity days, J and I spent many hours in conversation about his Goal of Contribution. After the four or five activity days where we got to connect in person, J and I learned about each other and what our personalities are like. We had planned out why he chose his goal, how he was going to accomplish his goal by developing a plan, how he would go about talking to people at his school or community, and ask others for guidance or help where he felt stuck.
J’s Goal of Contribution was to make friends with new students at school that had English-as-a-second-language and make them feel welcome by connecting them to people in and around the school. There were some rocky times in getting this goal accomplished. One was that a new student may not arrive at his school during the year, so we needed a back up plan. In addition, J was also terrified to talk to his principal. I, being a supportive and caring coach, decided to call the principal and just see if she’ll be receptive to hearing him out. How scary could the principal be? J was right, she wasn’t as friendly as I had thought – but I did get her to help J out without notifying him that it was me giving a boost.
Finally, just before our last activity day, J told me that there was a new kid! I was uber excited. I was previously anxious that J may feel he was the only one who did not complete a Goal of Contribution, that we would be sitting in some reject group at graduation night! The excitement resonated strongly in J’s own voice and new found confidence. The challenge here was that I needed to relinquish the Goal as his goal, and not mine. And, if the goal wasn’t accomplished, I would hope he had learned something.
J had learned more than something. J reported to me later, that accomplishing his goal taught him to be less shy, to be curious and look people in the eye when you talk to them. From my point of view, J has learned to take positive risks even when they are scary, that plans are always useful especially at times of need, and to learn to listen to what new people have to say to know what they need. J made a new friend who is struggling to fit in, but J is there every step of the way providing positive support where he knows he can as best he can.
What did I learn in being J’s KidCoach? Did I accomplish my goal to find a volunteering position that fit my interest, schedule and future endeavours? Probably. From J’s point of view, maybe he made a new friend and confidant in his KidCoach. From my point of view, I have learned that at any age and any stage of one’s life, we always have the possibility to give something back to our community. This is what Future Possibilities for Kids has taught me. We all have the capacity to share our experiences in order to foster the growth and development of others, be it Kids or us Big Kids.